The aftergrief : finding your way along the long arc of loss / Hope Edelman.
"A validating new approach to the long-term grieving process that explains why we feel "stuck," why that's normal, and how shifting a perception of grief can help us grow--from the New York Times bestselling author of Motherless Daughters Shouldn't I be over this by now? Why do I still feel the pain? Because of the common assumption that grief should be time-limited, too many of us believe we've done it "wrong" when sadness reemerges months or even years after a major loss. In The AfterGrief, Hope Edelman offers a new and reality-affirming paradigm: grief is not an emotion to pass through on the way to "feeling better," but a state that we repeatedly return to as we experience important life transitions and new crises. Drawing from her own encounters with the ripple effects of early loss, as well as interviews with more than seventy-five people, Edelman offers profound advice for reassessing loss and adjusting the stories we tell ourselves about its impact on our identities. With guidance for reframing a story of loss, finding equilibrium within it, and experiencing renewed growth and purpose, The AfterGrief shows that though grief may be a lifelong process, it doesn't have to be a lifelong struggle"-- Provided by publisher.
Record details
- ISBN: 9780399179785
- ISBN: 039917978X
- Physical Description: 288 pages ; 25 cm
- Edition: First edition.
- Publisher: New York : Ballantine Books, [2020]
Content descriptions
Bibliography, etc. Note: | Includes bibliographical references and index. |
Formatted Contents Note: | Introduction: getting over getting over it -- Chapter one: the story of grief -- Chapter two: getting it together -- Chapter three: something new -- Chapter four: old grief: recurrent and resurgent -- Chapter five: new old grief: one-time transitions -- Chapter six: the rings of grief -- Chapter seven: the power of story -- Chapter eight: People, we need to talk (and write, and paint, and perform) -- Chapter nine: exceptions in search of a narrative -- Chapter ten: reauthoring your story of loss -- Chapter eleven: story cracking: getting from A to Z -- Chapter twelve: story mending: finding continuity -- Epilogue: the missing elements of grief. |
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Subject: | Grief. Bereavement. Loss (Psychology) |
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The AfterGrief : Finding Your Way along the Long Arc of Loss
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Table of Contents
The AfterGrief : Finding Your Way along the Long Arc of Loss
Section | Section Description | Page Number |
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Introduction: Getting Over Getting Over It | p. xv | |
Chapter 1 | The Story of Grief | p. 3 |
Death, Dying, and the Echo That Spanned a Century | p. 11 | |
What We Think about When We Think about Grief | p. 13 | |
Mourning as "Work" | p. 15 | |
We Were Going through a Stage | p. 18 | |
Chapter 2 | Getting It Together | p. 25 |
The Social Rules of Bereavement | p. 26 | |
Saying Hullo Again | p. 33 | |
The Children Who Led the Way | p. 35 | |
Re-Membering the Departed | p. 39 | |
Chapter 3 | Something New | p. 43 |
New Grief: Here and Now | p. 48 | |
A Model for Everyone | p. 51 | |
What More Is New Grief? | p. 55 | |
The Childhood Exception, Part 1: Staggered Grief | p. 63 | |
Chapter 4 | Old Grief: Recurrent and Resurgent | p. 70 |
Cyclical Grief | p. 72 | |
Sneak Attacks | p. 79 | |
Resurrected Grief | p. 86 | |
The Childhood Exception, Part 2: Developmental Grief | p. 92 | |
Chapter 5 | New Old Grief: One-Time Transitions | p. 97 |
Life Transitions: Maturational Grief | p. 102 | |
Proxy Grief | p. 107 | |
Age-Correspondence Events | p. 109 | |
Next- Gen, Next-Level | p. 117 | |
Chapter 6 | The Rings of Grief | p. 121 |
Model Behavior | p. 122 | |
The Rings of Grief | p. 128 | |
Chapter 7 | The Power of Story | p. 137 |
A Story Takes Shape | p. 140 | |
Testing and Telling | p. 148 | |
Chapter 8 | People, We Need to Talk (and Write, and Paint, and Perform) | p. 151 |
The Cost of Silence | p. 157 | |
The Good Kind of "Letting Go" | p. 167 | |
Chapter 9 | Six Exceptions in Search of a Narrative | p. 172 |
Stories of Sudden Death: Narratives Compressed | p. 175 | |
Too Young to Remember | p. 177 | |
Too Young to Understand | p. 183 | |
Stories of Silence, Secrets and Lies | p. 187 | |
Stories with Missing Pieces | p. 196 | |
Traumatic Loss | p. 199 | |
Chapter 10 | Reauthoring Your Story of Loss | p. 205 |
Snapshots in Time | p. 206 | |
Stories in Motion | p. 208 | |
The Story of Now | p. 217 | |
Stories of Loss Are Also Stories of Lives | p. 221 | |
Chapter 11 | Story Cracking: Getting from A to Z | p. 224 |
Issues of Identity | p. 226 | |
The Alphabet of Overlooked Events | p. 228 | |
The Role of the Surviving Parent | p. 231 | |
Dominos and ACEs | p. 232 | |
Let's Get Back to Christopher | p. 240 | |
Chapter 12 | Story Mending: Finding Continuity | p. 243 |
Two Kinds of Life Stories | p. 247 | |
Two Things Can Be True | p. 252 | |
The Continuous You: An Experiential Exercise | p. 255 | |
Epilogue: The Missing Elements of Grief | p. 260 | |
Bibliography | p. 267 | |
Acknowledgments | p. 285 |